We are currently at a stand still with wedding planning. I'm hoping we'll find a reception hall soon so we can start knocking out some of our to-do list. Until then, I'll spend some time discussing what else is going on in our lives.
Andrew and I have always enjoyed reading relationship based books together. We started our first book after we had been dating for around a year and have tried to continue ever since. Earlier this year we began transitioning out of dating books and into premarital books, which was very exciting. We are currently working our way through Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. Gary Chapman is a Christian premarital counselor along with being a husband. We enjoy his insight and advice dealing with common marriage issues. This book is a quick read and only deals with the nitty gritty details, which is great for a couple like us that has little time for extra-curricular reading.
So far the book has covered topics ranging from how we may have a different way of giving and receiving forgiveness, to how being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage. Our goal is not to have everything figured out before we get married, (we know that's not possible) but to save ourselves some headaches by learning as much as we can from the experiences of others. In at least a couple of the books we have read about how couples spend so much time planning for the wedding day, that they kind of forget about planning for their marriage. Of course this sounds silly because marriage is a commitment lasting the rest of their lives, so one would think that this is where the greatest amount of preparation would be. Our goal is that when we are driving away after the wedding we are not thinking, "Holy crap we are married...now what do we do." As we continue to be apart through the course of our engagement, we find joy in knowing we are working on our marriage before it starts.
-A & B
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